The Cleopatra Type: “Masculine hearts pound when she goes by.”
The Godiva Type: “Anglo-Saxon, blond, winsome and how!”
The Sonja Type: “Dark and mysterious, she has a way with her.”
The Cherie Type: “She brings the boulevards of Paris to America.”
The Sheba Type: “Dark-brown hair and a queenly air.”
The Lorelai Type: “Blond and aggressive, she ‘gets her man.’”
The Mona Lisa Type: “Light-brown hair and a devastating smile.”
The Colleen Type: “She has more pep than a jazz band.”
Yeah, I know.
Again, this beauty type was not foreign to me. After all, I participated in my own “cute, pretty, beautiful” rating system as a child.
My mother and I set up this system to judge other females, focusing on those exact words. We’d pick a friend, a classmate, a teacher or a celebrity and decide on her ranking. And, even though we didn’t know it, we were also determining their value as human beings.
Lovely.
And this rating system wasn’t just a judge-y sport; it also underscored my full-blown eating disorder behaviors: anorexia, bulimia, binge- eating and, of course, constant self-loathing.
It sprang from that obsession I had with a certain type of beauty. Again, here comes the frail ingénue worship.
“...They were now competition for me. If I could be thinner than these women, then I’d be better than they were as well… Competition grew between me and any thin girl or woman. Mirror, mirror: I had to be the thinnest one of them all. It was life or death importance, anything less than that was unacceptable. Gaining any weight, whatsoever, meant failure, simple as that...What I didn’t realize at the time was that my eyes and mind were incapable of seeing anything but a distorted image...”
(Excerpt from “Thin Enough: My Spiritual Journey Through the Living Death Of An Eating Disorder”)
However, no matter what I did, I could never perfectly attain that coveted standard. No matter what, I never felt “beautiful.” And so, what was I? Answer: an ugly failure.
Why aren’t we enough?
Spiritually, it’s because we don’t see what Elohim sees. We limit ourselves. And we, as finite human beings, are more obsessed with the temporal, distorted and often, harmful depictions of beauty rather than God’s eternal, spiritual truths.
Awareness is key. First and foremost, what is The Most High’s beauty assessment of us?
I direct you to the following passionate (yes, racy) - and far from ambivalent- scriptures; check out The Song of Solomon:
1:15: “Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes.”
2:14: “O my dove…let me see your form…for your form is lovely.”
4:1: “Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes...”
4:7: “Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.”
6:4: “Thou art beautiful, O my love...”
7:10: “I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me.”
Still, if we only look to outward appearance, we’re selling ourselves way too short. Yes, each of us has inherent beauty, but that is only part of who we are. There’s so much more to our intrinsic value than our faces and bodies, wonderful as they are.
Scripture, in fact, states just how clueless we can be about something as important as our literal worth.
“For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.”
1 Corinthians 13:12
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways my ways, says the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”
Isaiah 55:8-9
And external image and inherent value issues? C’mon, we mess those things right up! We cannot wrap our minds around Psalm 139:14:
“...I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
Forget about the deeper things like love, destiny, meaning and purpose!
“Since you were precious in my sight… I have loved you…”
Isaiah 43:4
“I have chosen you and have not cast you away.”
Isaiah 41:9
“The LORD hath appeared of old unto me, saying, ‘Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with lovingkindness have I drawn thee.’”
Jeremiah 31:3
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.”
Jeremiah 29:11
(And these are all declarations from The Most High, Himself, here).
Notice there was no mention of “type.” There was no asterisk, ingénue standard, no Godiva, Sheba or Cherie categories in any of those scriptures. There was just unconditional love, affirmative acceptance and value, as is.
We’re beautiful and valuable now- no diet, manipulation, or other people’s opinions are required.
Therefore, right now, we’d all do well to typecast ourselves as Divinely-ordained incredible creations!