Setting The Solitary

‍ ‍Hello, Gentlemen.

It’s me, again, Sheryle.

Yes, I am talking to you, “as a room full of men.”

But I am, more specifically, talking to you, “one-on-one.”

Because I know “lonely.”

“Isolated.”

“Away from the herd.”

Yes, congratulations. You are officially interacting with a lonely chick with issues.

What could possibly go wrong?

Well, maybe, With The Most High’s help (OH ABBA, Puh-Lease, help me), maybe, it could be a case of “what could go right?”

Let’s see what happens.

I am an “only child.”

I grew up with no one to communicate with most of the time. My checked out, disordered, and abusive parents, mostly left me to fend for myself. Entertain myself. They shoved toys in my direction, toys that I was supposed to play with neatly and silently, and not “bother” them.

When you are told that you are “a bother,” and that you are not supposed to be a bother, the result of that can be loneliness: a forced sentence.

THE SHU.

Before I go any further, let me ask you, is it okay if I bother you? Am I bothering you?

I hope not.

I don’t know how lonely you are right now, you, the individual, apart from the group.

Just amongst The Most High, you, and me, are you lonely?

You don’t need to answer me. He knows the answer. And maybe you do, too.

Were you wanted?

I’m not talking about the “wanted poster” kind of wanted. Maybe you had a wanted poster with your face and your physical description on it. Maybe someone was trying to bring you into custody.

I am talking about the “good” kind of wanted. The kind of wanted that expresses real love, validation, care, esteem, and safety.

“I have loved you with an everlasting love.”

Jeremiah 31:3

My guess?

Probably not.

Really, not too many of us don’t get that.

And we deserve that. We need that.

You deserve and need that.

Are you in The SHU? Solitary confinement?

A place “cut off” from everything? Everyone? A place cut off from hope and understanding?

Were you placed there?

And now, because of too many messages from too many people and voices, do you place yourself there?

“It is not good that man should be alone...”

Genesis 2:18

Beyond a smoking hot, “Brickhouse” of an Eve, showing up for her Adam, like the originals of Genesis, this speaks to isolation.

We don’t do so well, with it.

Are you doing well with your isolation/loneliness?

Neither am I.

Maybe, some of that loneliness- that isolation- contributed to my cancer diagnosis.

I don’t know. He does.

You, reading this letter right now: please know that I am here. Yeah, I’m far away, geographically, but I am close, here, “in the Spirit.”

“For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”

Matthew 18:20

He’s a much a much bigger and better Presence than me, doing this typing.

But, for sheer, “hot mess of a human being,” here I am for you.

Lonely one to lonely one.

He is setting you, Fellow Lonely One, within these words you are reading, as within a family.

I don’t know what your family situation is/was like.

None whatsoever?

Disowned?

Abusive?

No Contact?

Hurtful if/when they DO see you?

But I’m here. Your Sister? Want one?

I will be surrogate family, The Most High Willing.

I’m not doing it from a “Holier Than Thou” place.

I’m waaaay far away from that Holy kind of designation.

I’m heartbeat close, however, to lonely.

My life, so often trained me too well for that.

Abuse and neglect trained me.

Betrayal of so many trust situations going South trained me.

Feeling forsaken all the time trained me.

“I will never leave you or forsake you.”

(See Deuteronomy 31:6; Deuteronomy 31:8; Joshua 1:5)

Maybe you got similar training, huh?

Yep. Solitary.

“It just sucks,” thus sayeth Sheryle.

He’s there with you right now. I hope you can feel Him.

Sometimes, yeah, it’s more difficult to “feel” that He is real.

But He loves you.

He loves me.

Some evidence of that?

Well, you are reading my hot mess words about being lonely, aren’t you now?

“He sets the solitary in families.”

“The Most High places the lonely in families; he sets the prisoners free and gives them joy…”

Psalm 68:6

“Ma Familia.”

Maybe you think that this is just a dumb letter. If you are still reading, thanks.

If you lost interest, well, I still am talking to you, nevertheless.

I have a big yapper.

No matter what, I love you.

You have infiltrated my heart, I guess, because He loves you so much. And, pssst, you are loveable.

“The Big He.”

So, “This lonely version of me” is writing to you, the individual.

You are an individual, uniquely designed.

You are set apart from the crowd, even if you only feel less- than and lost in the group, and even more isolated, misunderstood, and afraid.

Tell Him. Talk to Him, like I’m trying to talk to you now.

You don’t need “Thee’s And Thou’s.”

Just be real.

“Hey, I’m lonely. Please help me. Please help me know You better. Please help me. Amen.”

That’s a prayer. Just real talk.

He’ll set ya up in a great way.

He set this thing up, with the likes of me. Talking to you helps me. Please believe that.

I won’t judge. I had plenty of mullet perms as a teenager. I am in no place to judge.

But seriously, you went through a lot in your life.

And I love you.

This girl, from, who knows where, who doesn’t know fully your life story, loves you.

But more than that, how much better is it that He, Who does know your life story, loves you with a love that wants you to never feel alone?

Because He is right there with you now.

He won’t leave you.

And, as stubborn as I am, for as long, and as much as He will let me have the honor of communicating with you, I won’t leave you, either.

I can be good at being annoying. It’s a skill.

Anyway, please take care of yourself. You are worth it. You are.

I love you. I am praying for you.

He is too. Right now.

“Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus (Yahshua Ha-Mashiach) died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at The Most High’s right hand, pleading for us.”

Romans 8:34

“Therefore he is able, once and forever, to save those who come to The Most High through him. He lives forever to intercede with The Most High on their behalf.”

Hebrews 7:25

Love ya, Love ya, Love ya, Fellow Lonely One,

Your Sister,

In Him,

Sheryle

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