“Fawning” is a trauma response that doesn’t get much attention. “Fight or Flight” gets most of it. Yet “Fawning,” is, indeed, a trauma response. “Giving in,” to abuse an abuser, is another way to “stay safe.” No, we don’t fight; no, we don’t run. But we do try our best to protect ourselves.
And we feel shame- and can GET shamed for “giving in.”
There is no reason to shame concerning this trauma response.
You did what you needed to do to stay safe.
Our Savior also practiced “fawning…”
“He was oppressed and afflicted, yet He did not open his mouth; He was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so He did not open His mouth.” Isaiah 53:7
Try seeing yourself, like Him, in that instance.
If you had to “fawn,” for any reason, it was valid.
