Casper: Not a Friendly Ghost‍ ‍

‍ ‍What do Patriarchy and Casper, The Friendly Ghost have in common?

‍ ‍Patriarchy is a spiritual thing.

‍ ‍Hello, how’s that for a nice, “How do you do?”

‍ ‍But mincing words is necessary. We are living in a situation in which spiritual warfare abounds.

‍ ‍And we are reminded that it is, ultimately, spirits, not people, that we battle.

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“Finally, be strong Elohim and in His mighty power.  Put on the full armor of The Most High, so that you can make your stand against the devil’s schemes.  For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this world’s darkness, and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.

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Therefore take up the full armor of The Most High, so that when the day of evil comes, you will be able to stand your ground, and having done everything, to stand.  Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness arrayed, and with your feet fitted with the readiness of the gospel of peace.  In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one.  And take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of Elohim.”‍ ‍

Ephesians 6:10-17

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And let’s be real, females take a big brunt of it.

‍ ‍Do I sound like an “out- there” feminist?

‍ ‍Do I sound crazy?

‍ ‍Scripturally unhinged?

‍ ‍Just angry and complaining?

‍ ‍Well, stick with me. Maybe you can see where I’m coming from.

‍ ‍We’re going to be learning some vocabulary, so strap yourself in.

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Here we go.

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The war between the sexes, and it can be argued, and Patriarchy, itself, go all the way back to Adam and Eve.

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Patriarchy’s definition?

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“a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it.”

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Yep, that about covers it.

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Power and exclusion.

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Who fits where?

One of the most famous scenes, from Adam and Eve, is this verse, right here…

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“And I will cause hostility between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring. He will strike your head, and you will strike his heel.”‍ ‍

Genesis 3:15

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Enmity between you and the woman.

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Enmity. What does THAT word mean?

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“a state or feeling of active opposition or hostility: animosity, antagonism, friction, opposition, rivalry, feud, conflict, contention, bitterness, resentment, ill feeling, ill will, bad blood, spite, grudges.”

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Yes, feel any of THAT lately?

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Ladies, especially, do YOU feel any of THAT lately?

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Also, yes, known as “the war between the sexes.”

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We have heard the expression, “it’s a man’s world.”

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James Brown even sang about it.

‍ Yeah, even though I’m grooving to the song, and I’m grooving, because, it’s just such a soulful tune, it brings up the inequality between males and females.

‍ ‍One of the biggest weapons used FOR that inequality?

‍ ‍“Invisible Labor.”

‍ ‍Wikipedia breaks it down. I don’t think I could capture the definition better.

‍ ‍Invisible labor - Wikipedia

“…Invisible labor is a philosophicalsociological, and economic concept applying to work that is unseen, unvalued or undervalued, and often discounted as not important, despite its essential role in supporting the functioning of workplaces, families, teams, and organizations. The term was coined by Arlene Kaplan Daniels in the 1980s…

…Invisible labor has a toll on the mental, physical, and psychological well-being of those who perform it, and it reflects ongoing power dynamics and gender imbalances between those whose work 'counts' and those whose work remains 'unseen.' Invisible labor also falls disproportionately on marginalized groups as a factor of race or other identity characteristics, to the point it has been referred to as "cultural taxation…”

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And then, there’s a photo of a woman. The following caption reads, as follow, under that photo…

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…Invisible labor is most often done by women and racial minorities…”

‍ ‍Yeah. Is it becoming clear yet?

But wait. We are not done yet.

‍ Another weapon used, in Patriarchy?

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“Emotional Labor.”

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Again, back to the “Wiki” World…

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emotional labor - Wiktionary, the free dictionary

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“The act of managing feelings and displaying certain expressions in order to meet the requirements of a job

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Jobs which require such management and display. (Can we add an example for this sense?) 

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The display and management of emotion in non-professional, interpersonal relationships; emotion work.”

‍Females, disproportionately, do both kinds of labor.

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We nurture, tend, do menial tasks, do the things no one else wants to do. Usually unpaid, or underpaid, at the most.

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Still, it has a high price tag for us. We are constantly going “from thing to thing,” with others around us feeling entitled to that work, effort, and expenditure.

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Not much is mentioned or noted. It is taken for granted, far too often.

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Yet, if all of that stopped?

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Then what?

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No one wants to entertain that.

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Especially, the entitled men that depend on that work to keep the machine going.

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Family machine.

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Marriage machine.

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Relationship machine.

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Work machine.

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Church/ministry machine.

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Just some examples of the machines.

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“…‘The workman is worthy of his wages.’‍”

1 Timothy 5:8

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What about “the workwoman?”

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Where is she?

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What about her?

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I hear crickets chirping, filled with invisible labor.

‍I know there are some dismissive tones and reactions out there. Some people think it’s amusing. The “little lady” is getting herself ALL worked up over nothing.

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You know, PATRIARCHY!

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That’s where the Spirit of Patriarchy shows up.

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That entitled attitude is the luxurious attitude, possessed by someone, who has their needs tends to, usually, by a female.

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They don’t need to think about “that work,” because it JUST. GETS. DONE.

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It’s this subtle, normalized way of living, that asserts, “that’s how it should be.”

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It is a haunting spirit, tormenting the disenfranchised woman.

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It is not Casper, the Friendly Ghost.

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The Lesser Sex?

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“In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”

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1 Peter 3:7

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Many people, especially many men (yeah, I’m picking on you), like to emphasize 1 Peter 3:7, noting how weak/inferior “she” is, compared to a man’s strength. They seem to completely bypass the whole “honoring her” thing.

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Nope, no honor, just go straight for the weak, inferior nature she possesses.

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First, yeah, most of the time, physically men are stronger, due to size and upper body strength.

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But beyond that?

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Who is really the brains behind something?

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Who is REALLY running the show?

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But again, does she get the CREDIT for that?

‍ ‍Differing weights are an abomination.

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Hi there.

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Let The Most High introduce His stance on inequity.

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“Differing weights and unequal measures--both are detestable to Elohim.”

Proverbs 20:10

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Both are detestable.

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To me, that signals that, maybe, He wants “her” to get the credit for what “She” has done.

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The Book of Proverbs is known as a Book of Wisdom.

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Let’s see what other wise thing is said then…

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“Reward her for all she has done. Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.”‍ ‍

Proverbs 31: 31

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Well?

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Give credit where credit is due. Male or female.

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And one final scripture about male and female…

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“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in (Yahshua Ha-Mashiach) Christ Jesus.”

Galatians 3:28

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Therefore, if there is any kafuffle about, “you should serve freely out of love,” “do it for the right reasons,” “Don’t get caught up in what you can gain,” I venture to say that usually comes from someone who is freely, at no cost, benefiting from her.

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Does a man always want to do work, without any pay, without any THOUGHT of pay, FOR it?

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In the meantime, the unpaid female is suffering, afflicted. Her emotional, mental, and physical health are tanking. She is maybe becoming ill from “overdoing it.”

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She’s disempowered. Her creativity and sense of joy and fulfillment are in the red.

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Too high of a price.

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And Proverbs declares she has a high price attached to her.

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“…She is worth far more than rubies.”‍ ‍

Proverbs 31:10

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ABBA-

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We come to You, in The Name of Our Savior, Yahshua.

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You know the enmity we deal with.

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You know the injustice.

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You know all about “the war between the sexes.”

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You know what we have gone though.

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You know all about the friction that is happening in our lives.

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You know this hostility has existed for centuries; You know about its start.

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And You know the pain it causes.

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Help us. Stabilize us. Restore and replenish us.

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Reward our work fairly and generously.

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Forgive us for our bitterness, any sins connected to these issues, and to any wrong contribution to the lack of peace.

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You know there is, indeed, a lack of peace.

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We need Your Help, Your Vindication, Your Justice.

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You see all that has taken place.

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Be our Defender, Our Advocate. Our Rewarder.

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Step in and help us.

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We give You this struggle right now. Work it out.

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Thank You.

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We receive it all, by faith, and with a brave heart now, In Yahshua’s Name.

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Amen.

‍ ‍Copyright © 2026 by Sheryle Cruse

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