“At Least He Doesn’t Hit Us.” (“Just Violated?”)

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“At Least He Doesn’t Hit Us.” (“Just Violated?”)

“Fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of Thew Most High.”‍ ‍

Ephesians 6:4

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What WAS that?

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Abuse?

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Violation?

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Why is being beaten up physically the “real” kind of abuse?

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Being harmed can occur with no physical touch being laid upon us.

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It WAS that bad.

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It WAS abuse.

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It DID count!

(“Just Violated?” Book Excerpt)

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…The Mouse.

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The house I grew up in was built around the 19 teens.

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Why am I mentioning this?

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Because, this house, being what it was, had structural issues and cracks.

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The basement, when it was built, only had a dirt floor. It was like walking back into an early 1900s cellar, walking down those original, rickety wooden steps, set against a crumbling plaster wall. Dirt floor.

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Not cement. Not linoleum. Not wood. Not carpet.

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Dirt.

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Stayed that way. Never upgraded.

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And therefore, this area was invaded by mice.

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And they traveled upstairs. Mousetraps were set in the kitchen.

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Rodent poison was the solution for the basement. The kind that caused the mice to bleed from their eyes, noses, and mouths.

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Grizzly.

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My dad- the Sadist/Abuser/Probable Rapist- saw an opportunity here, not just a rodent.

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I was about five or six. I was asleep. Until I wasn’t.

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I felt something tickle my nose, brush up against my cheek. I opened my eyes, to brush it away from my face.

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I see a face instead. A dead mouse’s face. It took up my entire field of vision at first.

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Bleary-eyed, and startled, I looked past that dead face.

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I saw him, sneering, at the end of the poor creature’s body, its tail, dangling from his fingertips.

The corpse is now swinging more, as he is laughing. I don’t know what to think or do.

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Is he really doing this?

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Why is he doing this?

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Why is he laughing?

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I know I cannot be mad at him. Unsafe to do so.

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I can’t cry, either. Unsafe there, too.

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I let him laugh.

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I am awake now. I try not to react. Just let him be entertained. Amused.

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Get on with things.

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At least, he only dangled a mouse caught in the trap. There was not a mouse with bleeding eyes, nose, and mouth waking me up…

What was it that I was born into? What was it that I endured?

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What WAS I “a product of?”

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Rape? Abuse? Violence?

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(“Just”) Violation?

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